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Fears – Why do I have to be the monster all the time?

As a follow up to the last post, I was asked an interesting and related question: “Why does Olivia always ask you to be the monster”.

I know why, so I thought I’d share it.

Don’t forget (or should that be: Remember) that children can choose to represent their fears and worries in lots of different ways. It might be the “bad guy” or a teddy, or an imaginary friend or even a real friend with fictitious behaviour (ever had your kid make up tales about how so-and-so did this or that?).

What games do your children like to play with you and is there a role they like you to play more often? Leave a comment and let us know.

When a child has a Temper Tantrum…

Shouting, kicking, screaming and thrashing…


You’d think that the child is being obnoxious, but what if they weren’t?

What if, hindered by a lack of language skills, size and power, they were venting new and strong emotions in the only way they can using the only means at their disposal?

As a parent, it’s very easy to ignore or shout at (or worse) a child throwing a tantrum, but give them some attention and love and you may find strange things happen once it blows over.

One thing I forgot to mention in the video is that you should be caring and loving when present. Your baby needs acceptance not banishment. They’re new to all this and need help and support.

If you try this, please do let me know how you get on. It worked very well with my daughter and as I hinted above: there’s almost always a rainbow after the storm.